Is not what happens, is the meaning your give to it...

Everything in life depends on the meaning that you give it. For example, if you got a bad code review, and you think, oh, it's because my skills suck and I must be a pretty bad developer. Why am I even doing this job? I should quit and do something else. That's a way of giving a meaning to something that happened that won't really help you move forward. On the other hand, you could say, hey, nice, it feels like I got so much to learn and there are all these people giving me feedback.

So let me swallow my pride for for a second and take action and implement some of those tips. And I'm sure by doing that, I will become an even better developer than I am today. Same thing happen, different meaning attached. And you can do this with everything, getting fired from a job, getting humiliated in a tangled interview. Whatever it is, you will automatically attach a meaning to it. So, you have to really police your mind a bit.

And when you feel like it's tending to attaching negative meaning to these things, hey, just correct it. You want to attach meanings that will push you to feel excited and motivated about yourself, so you can take action and improve. Or if you can't do that, attach no meaning. Bad code review? Shit happens. Bad day? I'm sure tomorrow will be better. Most times, you don't have to attach meaning to things.

And if you do, pick a positive one.